Apr 26, 20232 min read

Dear Money: My money relationship

Broken to Brilliant’s Cultivating Brilliance series is held during the United Nation’s international campaign, 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence. It runs each year from 25 November (International Day for the Elimination of Violence Against Women) until 10 December (International Human Rights Day).

I attended the Financial Wellbeing session with Melissa Meagher from Talking Money. We learned strategies to help manage our money. A key one to get started with was to determine our limiting beliefs and blocks with money.

To work this out, Melissa suggested writing a letter to money, starting with ‘Dear Money…’ – as if I was writing to a person, about how I feel about my relationship with money.

Here is my letter.

Dear Money…

I get stressed with you and I worry when you’re not around. I stress out on how or when you will be found.

When a bundle of you arrives, relief is all mine. But you are gone so quick – I think that’s my warning sign.

I want to work with you for a relationship that’s clear. When I can live well, but still keep some of you near.

My mum had to be careful with a budget too low. My dad splashed you around with an endless flow.

My grandparents worked hard but did sensibly save. Help me! I need you. I’m trying to be brave.

My generosity shouldn’t get me in trouble, or looking for ways so that you can double.

I want to keep you home with me, so please don’t rush off just to be free.

Line my pockets, fill my bank with some to sow, be patient and help me not to let you go.

With this new teaching taught to me, my hope is to be totally debt-free.

Then to save for something close to my heart, where our relationship is healthy with a brand-new start.

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